You have been chatting with someone from a dating app, you get on well, and now you are wondering when to meet. There is no strict rule, but there are good reasons to avoid waiting too long or rushing.
Why not wait too long?
Messages only tell you so much. The longer you chat, the more you may build up an idea of the other person that is not quite real. Tone is easily misunderstood in writing, and a meeting in person shows you whether you really click.
Why not rush?
Taking a little time lets you get to know each other and check that the person is genuine. A few days of chatting and perhaps a phone or video call gives you a better feel for them before you meet.
A sensible rule of thumb
Many people choose to meet after a week or two of regular chatting, but it varies. If you are both keen and comfortable, a little sooner is fine. If life is busy, there is no harm in waiting a bit longer.
Before you meet
- Have a phone or video call first.
- Choose a public place and tell a friend where you are going.
- Keep expectations realistic. It is simply a chance to see if you get on.
In the end, trust your own pace. If you feel ready and the other person seems genuine, go and meet them.
